Does it matter?

Well, in most cases it does matter - because it makes people unhappy and frustrated. And in severe cases PE can threaten or even ruin a marriage - simply because it spoils the sex lives of both partners. Sometimes, the condition is so bad that the man cannot even manage to have intercourse because he invariably ejaculates before he can get into the vagina. This can be devastating for a man's self-confidence. And it can be hugely frustrating and annoying for his partner, too.

What causes it?

For many years, sex experts have tended to say that premature ejaculation is caused by early 'conditioning'. In other words, the man's early, rushed (and perhaps furtive) sexual experiences had to be quick - so as to avoid detection! The idea is that all this hectic rush 'conditions' him to climax as quickly as possible.

However, in our own surveys we have found that many men with PE say that they did not have rushed, hasty early sexual experiences (though others say they did). These maintain that they were 'highly triggered' right from the start of their sex lives.

Therefore, we feel that the tendency to reach orgasm quickly may often actually be inherited rather than learned.

Finally, there's no question that anxiety (or 'nerves') plays a part in many cases of PE. If you're nervous, you're likely to come too quickly. That's why many males have discovered for themselves that a small amount of alcohol eases their nerves and makes them less likely to climax prematurely. But we wouldn't recommend alcohol as a treatment!

Treatment

So, what can be done for PE?

(i) Very mild cases

-If you have very mild PE (for instance, if you can 'last' a good five minutes but would like to last 10), there's probably no point in going to a doctor. Why? Because you should be able to improve matters by simple 'distraction techniques'. This means turning your mind to something else when you sense that a climax is near. For instance, you can:

-think very hard about something totally unconcerned with sex.

-pinch yourself hard.

-bite the pillow.

-Some men try to treat themselves with a local anaesthetic gel. This product is advertised to the public as a good way to 'damp down' sexual sensation in the penis. But we do not advise using it firstly, because the local anaesthetic can 'dull' the sex sensation for the partner, and secondly because it can sometimes cause a distressing skin sensitivity reaction.


(ii) Getting help for more severe cases

If PE is causing you more significant problems, it is best to consult an expert for treatment. Some people claim that it's possible to 'self treat'- using the special grip mentioned later on. We don't recommend this: we think you should go to a doctor, psychotherapist or counselor who is trained in how to properly treat this disorder.

Fortunately, good treatments are available. Perhaps the most popular and effective method of curing PE is the use of all new Herbal products. With an astonishing success ratio, these products are fast becoming a favorite with professionals and individuals alike.

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